Another Depressing Topic

I am sorry guys for bringing the morale of the board down but I guess this is the only place where I guess people understand me and also have the same problem as me.So here goes another rant.
The topic is ,as u guessed it right,HeartAche. Sometimes u see a nice girl in a train and talk to her for the 20 minutes and feel like , God Shes So Great. Sometimes u go to a party and meet someone and talk to her for 40 minutes and feel the same (God, Shes so great). And then her boyfriend appears to drive her home or something similar. Do u feel a slight pain in your heart ?? Do u think "Just if she had said Bye a bit more properly I cud have pushed my luck a bit more and asked her out". Do u sometimes think why u r the only guy in the world who doesnt have a girlfriend.U cant be that bad.Why inspite of having it all( nice job , good money, OK car,always winning in Bowling) u still have nothing. Do U ??
I do and think sometimes Life is not Fair.
I know there are people with more pressing problems than me,but I wanted to see if there are other people like me OR Am i the only one ?
Do reply with your thoughts.
Regards
Tintin
(And in case u were wondering, I did meet a Very Nice girl today when I had gone out with my friends. I had a nice time with her for couple of hours, won the Bowling thing against 10 strong opponents and at the end of it all she says "I am gonna wait here cos my Boyfriend is going to pick me up in 10 minutes". I am very bitter today)

Let's love like there's no tomorrow......

I once act dazzled by a girl's looks. The first time I make a verbal blunder, I shake my head and say, "Being around a woman who looks like you has always turned me into a blithering idiot."
"I'm due for a time trial Saturday. It will be boring for you, but I'd be grateful if you come: Your presence would undoubtedly inspire me to a better performance"
Show you're attractive to other women.
Arrange to have a buddy phone you several times. Each time you answer the phoney, .........she should hear something like......\
Nick Casanova, you really did it this time.

Sounds Good. Will try next weekend

Tintin, do you know what your next problem will be? After you get a girlfriend? "Boys, now how can I get rid of her?"

Originally posted by Mapraputa Is:
Tintin, do you know what your next problem will be? After you get a girlfriend? "Boys, now how can I get rid of her?"

another truer word statement from Map, in fact is easier to "get them" than to "get rid of them".
Tintin, if you try not to expect anything but friendship on your first meet, maybe you'll get lucky next time.

Don't listen to the advise from the boys, I suggest you take the hard, cold advise from the Mother Cow:
1. The telephone trick won't work. Sorry.
2. Girls like guys who can commit. Deal with it.
3. Girls like geeks. (just to keep you reading)
4. Girls like guys that are not on-the-hunt. Listen to Stevie's last bit of advise.
5. Yeah, we're hard to get rid of, so think carefully before you think your problems will be solved by a girlfriend. The reason we're hard to get rid of, let me defend my species, is that the parties involved seem to have different motives with the dating & mating game. If your motives are noble, you probably won't want to get rid of your girlfriend immediately after you got her. (Mooo).
First make peace with who you are - you can not expect someone to like you if you don't like yourself. From there on: just be nice, be sincere, be yourself and don't have anxiety attacks: trust that you will find the right girl at the right time.

trust that you will find the right girl at the right time.

good advice i think.
48 and still waiting

Tintin I thought you had found a girl! I guess it didn't work out.
Don't worry, you are not the only man in the world without a girlfriend! Being single certainly has it's advantages too, try to focus on them rather than the disadvantages. I know it's hard at this time of year with stores filling up with Valentines gifts but hey you know what I certainly won't think it's the end of the world if I don't get a valentine this year and neither should you!
Also take the advice of people here ... don't think about it so much. Everyone I know who is in some kind of serious relationship has told me that it happened totally out of the blue at a time when they weren't even thinking about being with someone.
Go out, meet people, not with a view to meeting the girl of your dreams, but just to make new friends, have some company and have fun.
Also remember this, your experience with the girl you met when you were Bowling, this happens to girls too!! I was at a collegues birthday party not so long ago when I met a friend of his who I talked to for most of the night, I thought he was lovely and I really liked him and I hated it when I had to leave to get the last train home. Nothin came of it because I was too shy to give him my number, my theory ... it wasn't meant to be! It's sad but not the end of the world.
Chill out, concentrate of the positive things in your life; your friends, your career etc... things will happen in their own time.

I wonder why having an girl friend or a boy friend is sooooo very important.
Believe me its far more painful to loose one or find a wrong one than to never have one.

Does aught befall you? It is good. It is part of the destiny of the Universe ordained for you from the beginning. All that befalls you is part of the great web.

marcus,
yeah, i tell myself that too.

Tintin. Sometimes I wish I was single again. Not because I didn't find the best woman in the world to marry, but there are some great advantages to being single.
Ok, I was just like you for my first 31 years of life. I think I was too desperate. That never works.
So I was actually using some online dating sites. Like LA Matchmaker, and Yahoo Personals. I wasn't rtying to meet anyone for a serious relationship. I liked having fun. Well that's when I met my wife, and even though I really enjoyed being single and wasn't looking, there she was.
OK first I'd ike to say that you have a lot more going for you than I did. I couldn't go up to a girl and talk to her for 20 minutes at a club. I didn't have the guts. Congratulate yourself for that ability. And if she is talking to you for 20 minutes, I take that as she is interested, whether she had a boyfrined or not. You just need to ask for her phone number before he shows up
Good Luck, and don't worry.
Mark

The promise of marriage is not as long as we love, but as long as we live. It's really a choice that you make and from then it becomes a decision to love someone. It takes some serious balls! It is a daily process of give, give, give, both sides, not in equal measure but without measure. Marriage (and, in my books, that equals relationships) is not for wussies. I'm single, though, who am I to say this, perhaps some happily married folk out there should speak up.
[ January 28, 2002: Message edited by: Adi du Toit ]

Mark Spritzler is right about everything. In particular personal ads--they rule. Try match.com--it's the best of the online personal ad sites. I assisted in writing the online personal ad that made a co-worker�s now-wife respond to his ad. I also bullied a friend into placing an online ad, and the next morning her now-husband was one of the 50 men who responded. One of *his* friends met a woman online who in turn introduced him to the woman he married. My former boss (Finnish) and his wife met online.
Why not write an ad tonight? Write up the basics for Match or some other online site (yourself, your ideal, etc.) and get men�s and women�s input from this forum. Use humor, sincerity, all that stuff; details like your favorite pajamas or book or vegetable are fun. Get someone with a digital camera to take fabulous pictures of you. (Hint from a successful personal-ad friend: it doesn�t hurt to be slightly drunk when you write the ad. ;> )
Then when you go out on dates, you�ll know they�re there because they�re single, and they�re interested in you, and they're as nervous as you are.
Solveig

PS: Be sure you know your country or state's divorce laws before you consider any dating that would lead to marriage. ;> (It's funny how someone who doesn't know a default constructor from a boa constrictor can suddenly be getting half the royalties on a Java book.)
PPS Just because a woman has a boyfriend doesn�t mean she didn�t find you attractive.

Pay attention, Tintin, Solveig's hitting on you.

LOVE
Loss Of Valuable Energy

Tintin,
Try wearing a wig. Girls like to see hair on a chap's head.

Originally posted by Lalooprasad Yadav:
Tintin,
Try wearing a wig. Girls like to see hair on a chap's head.

If that was true, I would have an army of girlfriends by now.
Looks like you are speaking from personal experience.Dont worry,Lalooprasad,try some Fertilisers next time.
Cheerio
Tintin

Hi Tintin,
Well,before beginning to address your predicament let me announce....I am back. Don't know if you remember me....one of the pack that wud unwittingly seize ur initial threads here on the ranch. The quartet has disbanded or so I think.
Hey Stevie Kaligis you there buddy?
Neway, now coming to the topic, you have often knowingly / unknowingly projected a dastard-in-love image of yourself and that points to some inherent shortcomings in you on matters related to the heart. Hey guy, you need to get over any feeling of angst that you may have. I think that a 20-40 mins chat at a bar/club(remember, the ambience is working for you) should be enough for lady luck to smile. Try to introduce an element of drama in your conversation but be honest and don't feign. Do not be much of a deferential socialite and keep at bay any tendency of being a maverick(i hope u r not). If things do not work, never mind....pin ur hopes on the future for tomorrow is a new day. Good luck, friend.

Hi, EB. Welcome back. I dont know if you remember me. I am one of the gang of four that you were referrring to. I have retired from the thread hijacking business and am leading a quiet life under an assumed identity provided by the FBI's Felon Protection Program. If you are still wondering who I am, I shall give you a hint. I am not Rahul and I am not Stevie and I am not you .
PS. It's good to see you again. Shall we hijack this thread ?
[ January 30, 2002: Message edited by: Lalooprasad Yadav ]

EB,
Hey, tell us the story of your life. Give us an update from last message posted here to current date. Throw brevity to the winds, it sits ill on a hijacked thread .

Better still start a new thread EB! Glad to have you back but if this thread hijacking business starts again I shall have to shout again ... and I have a sore throat!! So let's leave this thread about Tintin's problems OK!

Angela,
In order to to stay within the boundaries of the anti-hijacking laws may I have a definition of what is a hijack and what isn't ? For instance if someone were in the process of offering expert advice on seduction to Tintin, would it be legal to speak of pheromones and the effect it has on female cockroaches ? I haven't yet seen a professor who would start off with the intention of discussing ethical relativism and not stray off to remote pacific islands and the breeding habits of mice. Such were the men who stood before us as role models during our formative years, so you could hardly blame us if we were to stray a little from the topic.
Nobody ever hijacks a thread on purpose. It is the natural evolution of discourse. This is often misuderstood by some as a hijack. Request to stay within the topic would be considered rude in normal converstion. The only occasion when a dim view of thread hijacking is taken is during formal meetings where time constraints often force the chair to call a rambling member to order. Even in such situations the rambler is given a certain amount of leeway. This reminds me of the incident when Churchill is reported to have rebuked the speaker of the house of commons for rebuking him for rambling. Churchill said "It is my birthright to ramble. I shall ramble on the ground, I shall ramble in the air and I shall ramble on the seas". This reminds me of an island in Samoa where it is illegal to hijack a tribal chief's thread. The hijacker's gizzard is fried and served for dinner. They consider fried gizzard a great delicacy in Samoa. Some people have weird tastes, dont they? Speaking of ethical relativism, what is good in Samoa need not be good in meaningless drivel, besides my gizzard has been rendered unfit for frying by too much whiskey. Karl Marx once said "The phantoms formed in the brain are bound to material premises. Morality, religion, metaphysics, all the rest of ideology and their corresponding forms of consciousness, thus no longer retain the semblance of independence." That reminds me of what we should be discussing. I think Tintin should try Thinku Mama's pheromone threapy. It might do wonders for him.
Cheers
Laloo
[ January 30, 2002: Message edited by: Lalooprasad Yadav ]

Hi Laloo,
Nice to see you around after eons....and it was my surmise, going by ur posts on this thread, that you are none other than SS aka prof Baldamus. Your shining pate lent credence to my deductions.... . Buddy you seem to have become somewhat testy owing to your deteriorating gizzard. The drinking habit seems to have taken its toll on your once charming visage. I am sure the ol timers would agree...at least your sparring partner on the ranch. As the quartet reassembles its going to be a happy reunion. Cheers all. Angela, thanks for the greetings. Nice to see you here. I guess someone else has filled up the void created by ur ascent in the hierarchy here. Have a nice time,all.

Originally posted by Lalooprasad Yadav:
Angela,
In order to to stay within the boundaries of the anti-hijacking laws may I have a definition of what is a hijack and what isn't ?

see here and let's keep the discussion about hijacking in that thread rather than this. Also may I suggest that you and EB catch up in your own thread!
[ January 30, 2002: Message edited by: Angela Poynton ]

Originally posted by Lalooprasad Yadav:
Churchill said "It is my birthright to ramble. I shall ramble on the ground, I shall ramble in the air and I shall ramble on the seas".

Churchill never said that

Yes he did.

No he did not. I was there.

Yes he did

Did not

Did too

yeah, well my dad can beat up your dad