| TITS LIPS AND HIPS | [Oct. 3rd, 2005|08:05 pm] Fucking Honest: A different kind of Safe Sex |
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Hey folks!
It's not too often I get to write about a *first time*, but I did something for the first time the other day that seems worthy of telling.
Backing up a bit, I want to tell you bout a few things first.
I got a cold sore. No big deal. I actually also recently thought I might have genital herpes, but it turned out to just be razor rash on my coochie. I know, sad, but anyway, it was a good idea to go to the clinic and have all the other STD tests and pap smear stuff done. And now that I know I'm not contagious, my pussy is feeling really free and happy.
I went to the clinic in the gay and lesbian centre. I like it there. The nurses are always really nice. I hadn't been in like 5 years. Paul was my dead gorgeous totally gay buff male nurse. It was really fun. I saw my cervix for the first time in the mirror. Fucking cool to see where babies come from. Anyway, so that was all good. Tests came back all neg. but a few days later I get a cold sore on my face.
So I'm making out with this guy (no kissing on the lips) and after a while I want to suck his dick. We decide put a condom on it.
First time!
Never sucked it with one of those before but it was REALLY GOOD!
It was a high quality condom, so I think that made a big difference. There's a Japanese company called "kimono" that makes excellent condoms. Actually all the Japanese condoms I've used I really like. They are really thin, but strong. Super clear see-through, and just lightly lubed. They usually fit kind of snug on most guys. (Oh, and if your sitting there thinking "No, way, you I can't feel anything through those things, a drop of lube on the inside of the condom will increase the sensitivity A LOT.)
Anyway, it was definitely not the same, but I wouldn't say not as good.
I really appreciated the safety of it. I didn't have to worry about my cold sore, and not only that, but whatever else we could potentially have. It felt good that his juices and mine were getting kept separate. It was just right for where this boy and me were at.
It felt good to have that one-step-down... I mean of course fully tasting your lover and sharing in those juices is great, but sometimes I'm not really ready for all that intermingling... So yeah. I think I'm going to start carrying them around for such occasions.
Tonight for instance, I was in a van with my girlfriend, her new husband, and our male friend. My girlfriend suddenly gets the urge to suck her husband's cock, and me and the other guy are just sort of watching. Then he kind of starts mentioning that it had been a while since he'd gotten head... and I was like "um no thanks, cold sore".
Even if I didn't have a cold sore, I wasn't feeling like sucking his dick. BUT if I had a condom, I probably would have felt like it. (Come to think of it, I could have cut it open and gotten some loving from him!)
I like oral sex. It's fun, but it would have been too much to suck it naked, with the taste/smell and everything. Sometimes people offer it to me and I kind of get the "no " feeling from the thought of their spit on me. But one layer between us would have been just right.
Anyway he ended up getting some in the end, but that's a different story...
There was a first time there too! I felt really honored to witness it. Haha I suggested we say grace!
Also, there have been a lot of explorations in polyamoury amongst my coupled friends lately, and I see the use of condoms in this way a great tool for adjusting the level of intimacy that would make it comfortable for all people involved. For example. A woman might feel uneasy if her boyfriend got a blowjob from another girl, but if he was wearing a condom, she may feel differently about it.
So, ladies and gentlemen, if you're like my friends and I and like the idea of getting some oral pleasure, keep a condom in your pocket, cuz for me, it would have been just the thing that would have made it happen.
I wish I had tried it sooner! Spread the word. SAFE IS HOT!
Nighty night,
your grrrl,
Miz Noko.
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