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    As I said, this has been going on for years, and unless you have some reason to, you may not even notice it. It's a kind of cognitive blindness which appears to come from our unconscious biases. I'm not sure what you mean by latent denunciation though, you'll have to explain that. Commented Oct 1, 2019 at 9:00
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    The major problem we have in being able to communicate these issues is that it’s not clear where the line is for talking about what happens in the TL and other private spaces. Therefore we default to vague or no statements, while those that resigned are free to say whatever they want, without recourse. Commented Oct 1, 2019 at 11:26
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    I can't say I see it either. In chat, anything happens, but that's not on site. Basic consideration and respect already applies in chat. If this is about being referred to by the generic "he", frankly, it seems a bit silly. On site; answering, asking, and commenting; nothing about your person is relevant and it almost never comes up. If you're a she or something else and it truly bothers you, and somehow it doesn't feel weird and irrelevant to correct people on it, go ahead and inform us. I seriously doubt more than a handful of users will intentionally "misgender". Commented Oct 3, 2019 at 15:03
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    "These issues have been going on for years" - in some parts of some sites. See @nvoigt's answer; some of us absolutely do not see any of this occurring, and it seems to us like the neighbors next door dragging us into their domestic disputes. Commented Oct 4, 2019 at 8:37
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    Just because you don't see a problem doesn't mean it isn't happening. I may not be seeing a given problem because it isn't there, or because I don't recognise or notice it when it occurs or I may be ignoring it because I don't understand it or actively believe it is wrong or not a problem. I may not even remember seeing something because of my own implicit/unconscious bias or even my own acknowledged biases and prejudices. If you don't believe using 'he' as a 'gender neutral' pronoun is exclusionary and sexist, for instance, then you won't notice when it happens. Commented Oct 4, 2019 at 11:35
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    People asking about trans issues and then arguing with the responses they get from trans people or their allies. People disagreeing with you is an issue? Should everyone agree with trans people on everything? Commented Oct 7, 2019 at 8:36
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    When you ask a trans person to tell you about their experience, and then argue that they didn't actually experience it, you're not helping, you're harming. You don't have to agree with everything a trans person says, and if you can find someone honestly arguing that you should, go ahead and shut them down. But you're apparently not even trying to understand what they say, let alone do anything useful. So why bother interjecting in the discussion? @LuisRico Commented Oct 7, 2019 at 8:55
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    @Nij but assuming bad faith from everyone that disagrees with you isn't helping either. If someone tells you their experience and it turns out to be a misunderstanding, should you not point that out? Commented Oct 7, 2019 at 9:08
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    When someone is saying they cannot be disagreed with about something, that's not about being wrong, it's about being uncorrectable even if they are. That's something that can't be accepted in any discussion that is meant to be productive or useful. Being wrong is something that can be dealt with; refusing to accept the possibility is not. @sgf Commented Oct 8, 2019 at 19:06
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    @MarkBooth: I'm sure some of it happens, but - what is the actual scale of this problem? Are there any statistics? Estimates? Commented Oct 11, 2019 at 15:51
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    The point @einpoklum makes is a valid one. Who studied this, what's the quantification for that data. Even more important: where did such things happen? On IPS, Parenting, Politics, language related sites etc? That I'd consider quite bad with high probability. In chat? On the other hand, if such a thing ("not again…") should occur on, say SO, Photography, AskUbuntu, etc then I'd like the subquestion addressed: "Why should any of this matter on such a Q&A?" For the latter case I see only vague accusations referencing long deleted stuff. For that, and as a vegan, I ask where's the beef? Commented Oct 19, 2019 at 18:18
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    Incidentally, I am not ignoring einpoklum and LаngLаngС because I have no answer for them, I have chosen to disengage as this kind of 'ganging up' demanding 'evidence' is a primary component of Sealioning harassment, which the Lavendar community has been having to deal with for years. I can only comment on what I saw in the lead up to this situation, I am not a social scientist and have not performed a rigorous analysis. All I know is that people are hurting and I want to help prevent that hurt. Ref: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sealioning Commented Nov 6, 2019 at 14:46