Consider a system of three masses (all $m$) connected by four springs (all with spring constant $k$), and the ends are fixed to walls, like
Wall --- (k) --- [m] --- (k) --- [m] --- (k) --- [m] --- (k) --- Wall The lagrangian is $$L=\frac{1}{2}m(v_1^2+v_2^2+v_3^2)-\frac{k}{2}[(x_3-x_2)^2+(x_2-x_1)^2+x_3^2+x_1^2]$$
In the standard steps, we have $$L=\frac{1}{2}m v^TIv-\frac{k}{2}x^TKx$$
where $v=(v_1,v_2,v_3)^T$ and $K=\left \{ \begin{matrix} 2& -1&0 \\ -1& 2&-1 \\ 0&-1&2 \end{matrix} \right\} $
However, to recover our quadratic lagrangian, we can also have other kind of matrix $K$,e.g. $K=\left \{ \begin{matrix} 2& -2&0 \\ 0&2&-2 \\ 0&0&2 \end{matrix} \right\} $
But if we use this matrix, we can't find right normal modes.
So my question is: Is there physical reasons tell us matrix $K$ should be symmetric? (Why physical reasons? Because we have explicit explaination of normal modes, like phonon, so I think we may not treat normal modes as some mathematical trick only)