It sounds like you want to create, not a resistor network, but a variable resistor, to use as a component in your fedback amplifier. The variable resistor should be able to be set to several values in a dB ratio.
Given the amplifier topology, any consistency of impedance around the inputs and outputs is moot, the fedback amplifier has a zero output impedance. As long as it has enough current output capability, it will drive the load.
With the topology you have illustrated, the gain is controlled linearly with the value of the feedback resistor. The input resistor sets a current, the feedback resistor gets a voltage developed across itself equal to IR.
All it takes to choose the values is to get your calculator or favourite spreadsheet, and calculate Rn = R0 * 10^(n/20) for n dBs, the inverse of the dB function. Then it's just a question of subtraction to find the incremental values that you switch.
I think 1dB steps would be too small for audio, 2dB is quite fine enough. A good approximation to 2dB steps can be had from the Renard R10 series: 1.0, 1.25, 1.6, 2.0, 2.5, 3.2, 4.0, 5.0, 6.3, 8.0, 10.0.1 This can be found cropping up everywhere, the most visible to an engineer might be that its alternate terms (the R5 series) are used for the standard voltages for capacitors.
Place this variable resistor in the feedback network of your amplifier wherever it's needed.

simulate this circuit – Schematic created using CircuitLab
I've normalised the values to 100 Ω, of course scale them as required.
I've only drawn 9 steps, 100 to 800 Ω, but I'm sure you can extend the pattern.
You'll notice the resistors I've used are not in a nice progression. This is as a result of taking the small differences between two, larger, approximated values. This nicely illustrates the error magnification feature of taking small differences like this. If you use exact values for the total required resistances instead of the R10 values, then the differences will progress nicely.
If you want more accuracy, then use the formula above rather than the approximate 'nice numbers' R10 series to base the values on. If you do really want 1dB steps, then use the formula above for 1dB steps, or use the R20 series.
If this is simply a volume control for audio, then extreme accuracy on the steps is not really required. Choose the nearest E12 or E24 value resistors for the string of resistors and compute the errors, you'll find they are quite small.
Do bear in mind that (apart from the 1 or 2 dB step size) I've answered the question as you have asked it. I am not endorsing most of the other elements of your question. Your amplifiers are not impedance matched. This is probably not the best way of varying gain in an amplifier. I don't know whether your application is best served by a differential amplifier: note that its input resistance is not symmetrical, and it uses twice as many gain control elements as a single-ended amplifier.
1 I'm trying to learn to do logs in my head, to at least 1.5 places. Get the first place from internalizing that series, get the second from linear interpolation between them. Handy for approximating roots and powers, as well as multiplication and division, if you're lying awake at night.