I've used the search engine but do not manage to find a simple answer to this simple question:
How to avoid aptitude wanting to deinstall tons of packages when a simple upgrade of a single package would suffice?
Sometimes when aptitude wants to remove a lot of packages is because they are not marked as manual but automatic (indicated with an A).
Automatic packages get autoremoved when they are no longer needed.
You can mark the ones you want to to keep as manual to prevent this. In the menu: package > mark manual.
apt-getinstead? :-)