Questions tagged [autism-spectrum]
For questions relating to or asked by people on the autism spectrum (this includes what was previously known as "Asperger", as well as "high functioning" and "low functioning" autism).
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How do I earn respect without constantly smiling? [closed]
I am twenty-three years old and I have this deeply-ingrained habit of always smiling or even grinning in the presence of others - I assume this was developed as a conflict-resolution mechanism as well ...
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How to approach my autistic friend regarding his negative behavior?
I have a close friend who is autistic. We have been friends for over 20 years. Over time he has made increasingly disparaging comments about me and I am unsure of how to address this. My friend was ...
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Trying to teach my nephew to improve on a skill
My nephew (16y) is a little bit on the spectrum and sometimes has a hard time dealing with people but has a great capacity to learn. He loves to create 'games' on a platform called scratch. I (36y) am ...
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How do I help my wife to see her potential?
My wife comes from a background of a controlling, abusive mother who always told her that she was incapable, and then a controlling, abusive (now former) husband who always told her that she was ...
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How can I adjust my communication style while communicating to NTs so that what I am trying to convey comes across clearly?
As an autistic person, I have noticed that when I speak directly, in a flat voice; often this can be perceived as threatening or trying to challenge the status quo - when I'm simply asking for the ...
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How can I do mirroring online, similar to my mirroring in person?
TLDR: I'd like to be able to use mirroring online, similar to how I do this in person, and change my communication style online so that it will be more well-received by people, and be more similar to ...
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How to handle a person joining a conversation by asking a question you just answered?
I ran into this issue multiple times and I don't know how to act. For context: communicating in groups does not come naturally to me, so I often rely on skills I learned over time and not everyone may ...
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Do emojis help autists recognize feelings?
Lately read an article about emojis and how inferior they are supposed to be in comparison to facial expression and tone of voice. (The article is in German, probably paywalled, and not really ...
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Why is it considered bad form to break up with someone over written text?
I am autistic and, when I was a teenager (10 years ago), I had always heard that it was "rude" to break up with someone over text. However, I never understood why. What's wrong with ...
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How can I help my autistic son with unrealistic life ambitions
My son is in his early 20’s and is on the autistic spectrum. He has seen his older sibling and cousins go to university, learn how to drive and move out of home to live with their partners. He now ...
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How can I get my mom to compromise and not use her total authority?
I am a 19-year-old autistic male that currently works as a Software Engineering apprentice. I live in a small village in the middle of Bavaria. Even though I got officially diagnosed - secretly - as I ...
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How, as in "what way", am I expected to go about using a dating app correctly?
A bit of a weird question, I know, but I feel I need this spelled out. When a person sits down and logs onto an app like Tinder, what exactly, more or less step by step, does Tinder expect them to do? ...
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How do I get to the point of asking questions and getting answers?
No matter what I say or do, I am truly just always asking questions about what I do not understand to people who are capable of helping me understand what I need to know about that topic, and no one ...
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50 votes
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Active listening in casual conversation: why does it not work?
I’m on the spectrum. Language doesn’t always come as naturally to me as to others. I often have a need to confirm I understand the conversation partner, for which I use active listening techniques ...
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How to tell someone that I'm on the autism spectrum while mitigating the risk of not been believed?
I'm on the autism spectrum. My manager knows about that but my coworkers don't. I have been working here for a little more than a year and not telling my coworkers that I'm on the spectrum is really ...
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