I'm not sure it's necessary to say the bases are standard at all.
One of the big problems I perceive with writing out matrices as arrays is that people lose the ability to think about them abstractly--they no longer know what the matrices mean. I think this is part of the way matrices are taught, so it's not your fault.
Let's look at the matrix $A$. What does it mean? Well, any matrix can be thought of as a linear function. You can equivalently describe $A$ as so:
$$A(e_1) = 3 f_2, \quad A(e_2) = f_1 + 4 f_2, \quad A(e_3) = 2 f_1 + 5 f_2$$
You'll notice each of these is a column, but with the bases written out.
How does this approach help? It makes problem (1) really trivial. Let $f_2' = f_1 + f_2$. Then $f_2 = f_2' - f_1$. Similarly, let $e_2' = e_1 + e_2$ and $e_3' = e_1 + e_2 + e_3$. Now, you should be able to evaluate the components. Consider $A(e_2')$:
$$\begin{align*}A(e_2') &= A(e_1) + A(e_2) \\ &= 3f_2 + f_1 + 4 f_2 \\ &= f_1 + 7 f_2 \\ &= f_1 + 7 (f_2'- f_1) \\&= -6 f_1 + 7 f_2'\end{align*}$$
All it takes to evaluate that is simple substitution.
Now, for (2), what is it we want to do when we use the change of basis matrix? We want to feed in a vector in the new (primed) basis, convert it back to the old basis, use the map $A$, and the convert back to the primed basis. The change of basis map should then take a basis vector in the primed basis and convert it to a basis vector in the original, unprimed basis. So like this:
$$P(e_1') = e_1, \quad P(e_2') = e_2, \quad P(e_3') = e_3$$
I'll handle only one of these cases, the last one. You should observe that $e_3' = e_2' + e_3$, or $e_3 = -e_2' + e_3'$. That basically does it--this is exactly the third column of $P$ that you're given. All you have to do for this part is express $e_1, e_2, e_3$ as linear combinations of $e_1', e_2', e_3'$. Since $e_1 = e_1'$, you only really have to do 2 equations, at that.