Some (much?) data, such as the book example, isn't inherently hierarchical. That the bookstore example uses hierarchical storage is a consequence of XML's tree structure, not the inherent structure of the data. Consider that a book can have many authors, and an author can write many books, which means neither can strictly belong to the other. XML gets around this by using identity attributes by which one node can reference another; the same technique is used in other serializations of circular data structures.
A full relational model can deal with truly hierarchical, homological data using closure properties; specifically, the transitive closure allows tree paths to be retrieved using a parent-child relationship. The real problem is that SQL and most production RDBMSs don't support closure properties in general. Transitive closures are available in SQL with Common Table Expressions/the WITH RECURSIVE clause but are relatively new in implementation and don't seem to get used as much (and aren't supported by all RDBMSs). More typically, you see the full path stored in the table (Farey Fractions can be considered paths using their decimal expansions and special markers for repeated trailing digits, similar to quote notation).
Another data model you used to see often was the network model, where nodes are datums and edges are relationships. In the book model, there'd be an edge from each author node to each book node for a book that the author wrote. The database reports & specifications created by CODASYL used a network model. There are various issues with using a network model that the relational model specifically addresses; Codd's seminal paper has more.
If the relational model seems non-intuitive, perhaps it's because you have yet to grok the relational model. Don't think of it as tables and rows (which are more what you find in a spreadsheet) but as declarative relationships:
Hector Garcia-Molina wrote "A First Course in Database Systems" Jeffrey Ullman wrote "A First Course in Database Systems" "Database Systems: The Complete Book" is a book with ISBN '0-13-815504-6' and price $85 ...
From there, you write the statements using predicates:
Wrote(Hector Garcia-Molina, "A First Course in Database Systems") Wrote(Jeffrey Ullman, "A First Course in Database Systems") Book("Database Systems: The Complete Book", ISBN:0-13-815504-6, price:$85) ... Note that the Book example isn't a simple predicate because two of the datums are tagged with names; this is part of what distinguishes a relationship from predicates, relations and other similar mathematical objects. Predicates define sets, so you can use set operations to define new relationships. This brief overview is very informal and imprecise, but should give you a starting point.